I'm about to have a real-talk here, and if the idea of the LGBTQ+ community bothers you, don't bother to read this or comment on my post.
I wish I could post this rant on Facebook, I really do. But I'm friends with my hyper-religious family and a member of my mom's church, and the last thing I need is a come to Jesus talk.
So here's a little thing about me. I'm a lesbian. Coming out was hard enough for me to do with my hyper-conservative, hyper-religious mom, but here's some things I learned along the way:
Telling your family and friends anything but something along the lines of "Okay, I accept you" is only going to hurt your relationship in the long run. (Just don't go with my dad's "Okay" as if nothing is new and then have them question if the person really cares or not...) Don't ask "how do you know?" or "what makes you think that?" because all that will do is cause them to question everything again and again. Don't admit that you knew all along but continued to question them when they were younger because you "didn't want them to grow up in that community". Because life is tough, and you've gotta let your kid/friend be themselves. Though don't flat-out tell them "oh, you're gay/bi/pan/trans/whatever", either, because that may cause denial. Let them figure it out for themselves. (Fortunately my one friend thought it was best if I discover that I was a lesbian on my own, rather than tell me, because if she had, it would have pushed me into the closet further, most-likely. My bff had no clue, though, because I always dated guys. But my mother has said she didn't want me to have to "grow up in that community because life is hard enough". Multiple times.) Don't bring up the fact that they thought they were something else like ace or bi, because they were just trying to figure out exactly where they fit in in the world, because they knew they weren't straight, and you questioning every move they make makes it harder. (I only bring up ace and bi because those are what I thought I, personally, was. I am not trying to diss anyone's journey, nor am I trying to say that these are not valid things to be.) Don't remind them every conversation that you love them, but you "still consider it a sin". No matter how many times you tell them "I love you and want you to be happy" it doesn't matter. Because what if they get married or move in with their lover?
Don't say "oh, you'll meet a wonderful woman/man/trans-woman/trans-man/non-binary person/fill in the blank here because I'm blanking on if there are any other sexualities" when you still think it's wrong. Because what if they see that person every day and think to themselves: "Did I make the right choice? Should I have married/moved in with this person?" And that will drive a wedge further and further into their heart. And that wedge will come out. Whether it be between them and their lover/spouse, or between them and their family/friends, it doesn't matter. It will drive a wedge and people will get hurt. Especially them.
Just don't.
These are just some things I've personally experienced growing up in a very conservative religious household--at least on my mother's side of things. My dad could care less about religion. He's happy with his faith and doesn't feel the need to go to church, so he seems more supportive than my mom. I know she's trying, but still...I hate that every time we talk about the fact that I'm gay, the phrase "I still think it's a sin" comes up.
That's going to be a point of discussion today, when she gets up from her nap. I can guarantee it.
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